So I thought I'd follow up my proposal story with a post about what it means to be in an LDR. I often get so many questions, and see so many other posts and Buzzfeeds about being in a Long Distance Relationship and half of them really drive me crazy. I thought an honest and uplifting insight should be shared!
We've been together for two years and we're now engaged (eeeeeeeeee I'm SO excited!) you can read how my fiancé proposed here. We first met while I was studying abroad and dated for 10 months before I moved home. Lucky for us we'd settled into our relationship and knew each other really well. Now that I'm back home it means that we have to travel to see each other, sometimes going months apart. It's not impossible though, and there are so many plus sides to this type of relationship. Here are some things I discovered, and my insights into what it's like, for all you other LDR couples out there.
1. Once you're in one, it seems like everybody else is!
I actually know four other couples who are long distance relationships. Living in different time zones kind of long. One couple is actually my best friend and Big! Like me she's engaged, with a beautiful country style wedding planned for next year. It gives you hope and comfort to know this. Being in an LDR isn't out of the ordinary, or impossible, it's perfectly normal and super possible actually. Chin up buttercup!
2. Being apart is heartbreaking, but when you're together...
You know how exciting the start of a relationship is? You get butterflies and message each other constantly. Talking to them makes your heart beat really fast, and when you see them you can't stop holding hands and smiling. That's what it's like every time I get to see Mr.P. It's true that being away from each is hard, I cry and miss him always, but the time we spend together is worth it.
3. You will go a little crazy.
A message goes unread, or you don't get a reply for hours (even when you take the time difference into account). There's been times where I've gotten incredibly jealous other something that doesn't even exist. It's easy to loose your mind a little, emotions are in over drive and you're bound to have some doubt. This happens in any relationship though. It's natural and normal, you just need to remember to be open and share your low points with your boyfriend or girlfriend. Communication is so important.
It costs a lot. I worked my butt off this past year while finishing University to be able to save enough to fly out and visit Mr.P. But you get to travel! Hello.... extra vacations! It's something you need to understand and be organised about. Look for cheaper travel options, and plan in advance.
5. Everyone and their dog will have an opinion.
They'll always be right, and you'll always be wrong, biased, or odd. I've come across some nasty comments from people when they've found out about my relationship. I've also had wonderfully supportive friends, family and strangers. Just remember that it's nobodies business but you're own, you have nothing to prove, and nothing to defend. Keep a positive mind and it'll all be okay.